How do you know when your child is ready?
As Magda Gerber often said, “readiness is when they do it.”
Toilet learning is not something we do to a child, or ask the child to do to please us. Using the toilet is something a child wants to do when they are ready. It is a natural process that is best led completely by the child with our support.
Ready babies do it better and they own their achievement completely, relish it, and build self-confidence to last a lifetime.
Waiting for development of an infant or toddler’s motor skills, toilet learning, language and other preschool learning skills is key. You will then notice a child’s satisfaction, comfort and self-pride when he is able to show you what he is ready to do, rather than the other way around.
When is my child ready to start toilet learning?
Toilet learning success hinges on physical and emotional readiness, not a specific age. Children will tell us when they are ready to toilet learn, it is our responsibility to be able to pick up on their cues – remember there is no rush. If you start toilet learning too early, it might take longer for your child to learn.
Readiness is the key. Children must be ready physically (have bladder and bowel capacity and muscle control), cognitively (be fully aware of what they are supposed to do), and they must be ready emotionally to let go of a situation they are used to and comfortable with (urinating and pooing into a nappy whenever they feel like it.) When a child is ready they will show you, making the process much easier.
Parents lay the groundwork for the child’s readiness when, beginning at birth, we make nappy changes an enjoyable, cooperative time together, and respect the baby by slowing down and talking him through each part of the process.
Reading your child’s cues
Being able to recognize the signs of readiness in your child will ensure that it is the child’s choice to start toilet learning. Ensuring they are ready is they key to success.
Try asking yourself these questions to discover how ready your child is to begin toileting:
- Does your child seem interested in the potty or toilet, or in wearing underwear?
- Does your child tell you when he or she needs to go?
- Does your child stay dry for periods of two hours or longer during the day?
- Does your child complain about wet or dirty nappies?
- Can your child sit on and rise from the toilet?
Toileting here at Star
- Here at Star we believe in waiting for the child to show us that they are ready to start toilet learning. This process should be completely child led.
- We provide a respectful environment that gives your child the time and support they require as they start toileting.
The signs we look for are:
- Children telling us they have a wet or soiled nappy (asking for a nappy change)
- Children telling us they are going wee’s or poo’s in their nappy, when its happening
- Telling us they need to go toilet